Blog Archive

I was looking for a community of like-minded people to have the conversations that I was longing to have in church.

I began blogging as I was looking for a community of like-minded people to have the conversations that I was longing to have in church. I wrote to learn and to connect, never thinking that I would still be going over ten years later! Some of that learning has also involved critiquing contemporary evangelical and church culture, trying to make sense of it all. I’m so blessed by the community I’ve found and the way thoughtful and engaging readers have helped me grow.

He Never Called Her Beautiful

“But do you know, in nineteen years of marriage my husband never once looked into my eyes and told me I was beautiful.” Shannon Harris, The Woman They Wanted Shut the book for a second, Aimee. Hurt with her. Hurt with Shannon. With beautiful Shannon. I went to high...

My Thoughts on Mike Bird’s Thoughts

Photo by cottonbro studio on Pexels.com Mike Bird said that he was keen to hear my thoughts on his latest article, giving advice for egalitarians who find themselves worshipping in complementarian churches for one reason or another. That's the cool thing about Mike—he...

The Hooded Eye

Photo by Wayne Jackson on Pexels.com Videos keep popping up on my social media apps, tutorials to disguise my hooded eyes. Yes, I’ve noticed them too, in the mornings and in pictures where I’m smiling but something looks different. The hooded eye, they call it. It...

Joshua Butler, Theology in the Raw, and Looking the Wrong Way

Photo by Jens Johnsson on Pexels.com After listening to the interview with Joshua Butler on Theology in the Raw regarding the controversy over a concerning excerpt of his book that was posted on The Gospel Coalition, I was glad to see healthy critique and for Butler...

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The Last Woman Standing

Dreamstime I don’t know how many women today would be turned on before lovemaking if her groom told her that her neck was like a tower. But the Groom in the Song goes for it, telling her, “Your neck is like the tower of David, constructed in layers. A thousand shields...

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Beth Moore and the Power of Story

This isn’t a book review. Reviewing someone’s memoir doesn’t seem quite right. They just shared their life with you. It’s a brave act. I think it has been Beth Moore’s superpower in her ministry. She is beloved because of how she gives herself to others. And she is a...

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on grieving

Photo by Jeff Stapleton on Pexels.com Sometimes Christians have a hard time talking about our grief. We think we need to be happy all the time. Like our witness to Christ depends on it. Seeing the news from the Southern Baptist Convention yesterday, even though it's...

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On Unlearning

Photo by Ivan Bertolazzi on Pexels.com “Wicked people despise the cost of growth” I heard someone say this the other day, attributing it to Dan Allender and Tremper Longman. It really stuck to me. We like to think in terms of discipline when we consider the cost of...

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Time Is On Our Side

I made this in high school Talk about hoarding. What a love/hate relationship we have with time! The memories that haunt us, that we cannot get back. The things we wish we could change, the words we wish we said or hadn’t said. The opportunities that we missed out of...

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The Black and Beautiful Church

From Medieval manuscript Bellifortis by Conrad Kyeser and dates to c. 1405. Moses’ Wife, the Queen of Sheba, and the Black Bride Let's trace the black and beautiful bride through Scripture and behold her beauty, starting with that strange story in Numbers...

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The Kind of Friend Who Opens the Door

Photo by Harrison Haines on Pexels.com The past couple of years directed my thinking and longings to what kind of friend I want to be. Or maybe it’s more like what kind of person I want to be. They are hand-in-hand concepts. This is what I am thinking about going into...

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Christmas & Why We Call God “Father”

Christmas is a good time to talk about why we don’t call God, “Mother.” We know that God is a Spirit, not male or female. And yet we use Father/Son language, “him” language. Even though we see some maternal language associated with God, we privilege the paternal...

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